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My Bad ME3

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By novabird

Aug 5, 2012
with COPASO
124 COLOURlovers viewed this page and think novabird has the magic touch.

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Bad Memory - I have a terrible memory for names. I forget essential info about people and then this leads me to be less talkative than I used to be. I have a fear of offending someone by not remembering what they had previously and recently told me. I have trouble remembering physical outdoor places that I have been to before as in rural geography, but not urbanscape. I get lost in the bush easily, so I always stick to the trails and always bring a compass. I always forget at least one thing when I go out the door and have to go back for it. Worried about early onset Alzheimer's Disease.
Duck Paddle - I try to look competent, and capable all the time. People comment on what grace, composure or dignity I have. I prefer to think of myself as overly stoic, yet at the same time I also have a habitual mindset of seeing the best in people often to my detriment. But if you could only see under the surface of the water, you'd see how hard I was paddling just to stay afloat and keep from drowning.
Wild Imagination - My imagination gets the better of me and I attribute negative things to something I must have done. I tend to catastrophize. Thinking that the worst thing has happened, despite my seeing the best in people. (People essentially good - world challenging). I worry a lot about little things, and ruminate about the past. I ask myself questions like: Did I remember to say thank you? Could I have handled that better? My self-esteem suffers as a result.
Dream World - I have a quirky way of thinking about the world. Sometimes I think the dream world manifests itself in my wide-awake state and have a strong sense of déjà vu. I also sometime think, my mind tells me things that are closest to the truth when I dream. So, if I dream that a person has done something "bad," then that colors my perception of them in real life. I sometimes make false associations between my dream consciousness and reality. I confront this cognitive distortion and ask myself, , "How likely is that to be true?" or I ask a close friend if something is "true" or not. So, because of this I am not a spontaneous person, I am a reserved and cautious person. Although spontaneity still does pop out of me from time to time, I am mostly solidly grounded and my head is not in the clouds.
Addictive Nature - I have been an addict. Many years since, I have been addicted to alcohol, cocaine, and other risk taking behaviours. I became clean as soon as I knew I was pregnant. I am no longer an addict, but can still become addicted if I give in to a temptation. I never do. However, I can become obsessed with particular interests. Presently it is colorlovers. I ration my chocolate addiction to approx 200 calories a day.

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Bad Memory

EFECBF

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239,236,191

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duck paddle

B39402

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179,148,2

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wild imagination

69AC86

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105,172,134

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Dream World

1E809A

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30,128,154

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an addictive nature

44317D

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68,49,125

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poppy234

dream world is mine with wild imagination

Mricha

Hats off to you, Nova!! I think the strength to overcome your problems is THE real you! Bravo!

o2bqueen

My heart soars with thanks for your sweet words and applause, Novabird. I started the ME group out of the belief that those of us who “live here” could really support and applaud one another if we only knew what one another's stories are. I want people to experience the safety and love I’ve felt here. If the group does well, it will only be due to the courage of those, like you, who play with all their hearts. I really appreciate your response to my son's addictions. I must say it's hard for the parent, too. I wrote in my "When I Grow Up" palette that I hope someday to write a book about my relationship with him. He's my only child and has been drawing life support from me as far back as when he was in the womb and wouldn't come out. (Yes, I really did have a nearly ten-month pregnancy!) Deep down, he's so terrified that he'll be abandoned. It's his one, true spiritual battle, and sadly, he does seem to do everything possible to ensure others do abandon him. Ah well, thank you again for your wonderful praise and for sharing your beauty with me and everyone else.

novabird

o2bqueen, what an amazing, creative journey you have provided for those people who are so inclined to share more of themselves; in a multi faceted way . Not in an "exhibitionist" way, but rather in a way that lends itself to "open communication." Normally, it's difficult to broach these matters of the heart with the world at large. You have provided a venue that will hopefully encourage others to do the same as well. Thank you for sharing with me your difficulties with your son. It is often easier to say yes to something and then simply not follow through, than to say no and really mean it. I hope for your son that he will one day have an "intervention," that will open his eyes, and that he will see that the harder way at first of saying, 'no,' becomes easier to handle over time.
Brava to you for your courage in sharing so much of who you are and setting the example whereby others can feel encouraged to do likewise. I say again - - - Brava!

o2bqueen

Somewhere in my going through ME palettes, I overlooked this one. I'm mighty glad I finally got here. I can totally relate to the bad memory and the duck paddle. Fortunately, at 60, I can sidestep the "growing senile" response and claim that I have "chemobrain." Guess every cloud has a silver lining, yes? I wish you could know how profoundly I admire your courage, strength, and willpower to overcome your addictions. My 37 yo son is an addict and has been hooked on one substance or another since he was 15. It's a very hard life for addicts. He's tried to become clean a number of times and in a number of ways, but he still hasn't accepted that becoming clean and staying that way is a conscious choice that must be backed by total commitment and determination. It doesn't mean denying the illness but, rather, denying it the power to be in charge. You have made that choice out of love—for your daughter and yourself. Good for you. i applaud you loudly.
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albenaj, Thank you so much for taking the time to comment on my palette. I guess when one openly and honestly expresses what makes them feel bad, that's it's bound to come off in a negative way for some people and that they will see my "bad" experiences as problems regardless. Yet, I still think that a wonderful thing about colorlovers is the chance we get to show sides of ourselves we do not normally express as much in the outside world. I think my palette describes a lot of things other people share in common and or experience, but don't commit to words either spoken or written because they are considered taboo or only shared amongst those closest to us.
My friends are great; they know about my weaknesses and eccentricities of being on the "quiet side," and they draw me out, or my very infrequently checking to see if things "might be true," and oftentimes they say to me you're right about that - there's that intuition of yours again ! We find time to do many things together; in the summer we swim, canoe, fish, hike, play tennis together, go to summer concerts. When the season opens I go with them to the symphony, and year round sometimes I go alone but I always visit art galleries and go to live, stage theatre productions. My friends are my balance to my wild imagination and they help to ground me and they help to affirm who I am. My daughter gives me an immense sort of pride in the absolutely wonderful human being she is.
Thank you albenaj for your sincerity of caring and concern. I probably would have responded exactly as you did, because in retrospect; rereading what I have written, I sound sort of lost in my own head and not connecting with people. Believe me I know the importance of having people in your life who know who you are. I need to make the "counter" palette to this one; one that describes my strengths; how I change my negative traits into positive ones and tells who I am as a whole person and rounds me out more.

novabird

Monishab, thank you for your affirmations : ) You really give me a sense of being valued despite my flaws. That's one of our greatest truths to discover; how to love others unconditionally. It is my pleasure in having met and found a friend in you. Thank you so much for you just being you !

Monishab

Nova thank you for revealing your brave , strong, adorable side, you being generous , kind, nice comes across beautifully in our appreciation of colour lovers submissions.....I'm happy to know you nova.. :):):)

albenaj

Dear sweet novabird I too forget sometimes and worries about early Alzheimer passed my mind but I think we all forget things and it's just too much of information a single brain can carry:))We can't remember everything for ever.I love to dream,daydream and be alone sometimes with my mind drifting awaaaaayyy.It charges my batteries and later I feel wonderfully rested.Do not even think about alcohol and stuff.One good thing to do is to play at the gym and make friendships there.It helps a lot))Hugs))

novabird

a merciless moon, I think you should change your username to, 'a merciful moon,' you have given me a wonderful feeling of having been 'really' heard, - such mercy and grace : )

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